Landing yourself a first date is only the first step in securing a smooth transition into an eventful and exciting night. A first date is about an impression. A woman wants to feel that the man she’s with has not only thought about the date, but also prepared accordingly. Here we have shared what a girl expects on the first date and how to act accordingly.
Go The Extra Mile or Two
If you greet her with a red rose and a smile, you’re sure to get a warm response. But why not turn up the heat and offer her a less stereotypical treat? If you already know some details about this woman, use the information to your advantage. If her favorite color is purple, give her a purple flower. Otherwise, use your imagination. The key is creativity; she’ll be impressed if you’ve shown that you not only got her something, but that you thought about her while doing it.
Be Polite, Not Pushy
She may not tell you that etiquette is a priority, but be sure that she’s keeping an eye on what you are, and perhaps more importantly, what you aren’t doing. It’s the little details that make the difference, like chewing with your mouth closed. Remember nothing you have to say is either important or funny enough that it can’t be said after you swallow. Do offer to open the door for her, but if she insists on doing it herself, be sure and let her. Another rule to remember is, any stories that involve vomit or secretions of any will generally be a complete turnoff to a woman.
Many men forget to notice and compliment their date’s appearance. There must be something about her outfit, her hair or the way she smells that you like. You can be rest assured that she’s spent a good portion of her time primping and preparing for this first date, and it’s important that you acknowledge her efforts.
Be Curious About Her
You’re nervous and trying to make sure that she thinks you’re better and more original than the last guy who showed up at her door with a red rose. The result can often be you talking about all the things you’ve accomplished while neglecting to ask her about her interests. Your intentions might be to keep the conversation flowing, but please avoid getting into a monologue mode.
Be Assertive, Not Aggressive
It’s important that you’re confident. But, it’s also important not to blur the line between being assertive and aggressive while interacting with her, as well as those who might even prove to be allies on your first date. When dealing with your waiter, she’d prefer you be courteous than cantankerous. If the movie you both wanted to see is sold out, try and take it in good humor rather than going ballistic.
Always Have A Backup Plan
If the plans you made unravel at the last moment, relax. You can always rely on plan B to make the most of what might have been a wasted night. She’ll either be impressed by your on-the-spot creativity or glowing at the thought of you considering a “just in case” scenario for your date. It doesn’t have to be overly extravagant, just make sure you have some other ideas in the event the night doesn’t come together exactly as planned. From ice skating to salsa dancing to coffee drinking any backup option is better than no option at all.
Leave Her Impressed
The evening seems to be coming to a close; time to pull that proverbial ace from up your sleeve. You want to leave her with a lasting impression about what a wonderful time she had and how lucky she was to spend it with you. Seeing her to her door will no doubt get you further than the front door. But give her the option to welcome you in by taking it one step at a time. Offering a polite end to a wonderful evening just leaves her wanting more. And if you’ve played your cards right, she’ll be wanting more than just this one date anyway.