Books To Boost Your Love Life

Are you too experienced for 50 Shades of Grey but still not ready for Anne Rice’s The Sleeping Beauty Quartet? Do you prefer something more scientifically-centered to read when it comes to dancing in the sheets? Then we have just the thing for your bedtime reading.


Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
Author: Emily Nagoski, PhD
This is an accessible and quite empowering book. It contains current research data and scientific facts. A psychologist and sex therapist based in Lexington, Massachusetts, Aline Zoldbrod, Ph.D., confirms that this is a book that should let women “feel normal” about their personal sexuality and provide them with reliable advice on how to “increase their pleasure.” It also differentiates between a man’s sexuality and a woman’s. Finally, it specifically states what women can do to make them more confident in the boudoir.


Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Author: Sue Johnson
San Diego-based psychologist and sex therapist Kristin Zeising, PsyD, publically supports this book. The book concentrates on EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy). It is a technique that was developed by the author, Johnson, who is a doctor of education and a clinical psychologist. She describes Emotionally Focused Therapy as acknowledging and admitting when one is dependent on and “emotionally attached to” one’s partner much like a child relies on his/her parent “for nurturing, soothing, and protection.” It includes several “transformative conversations” that she believes all couples need to have.

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
Author: Esther Perel
This is reportedly a best-seller. Virginia-base sex therapist and clinical psychologist Katherine Bettin, Ph.D., is but one professional who rates this one high. Bettin reports that a lot of sex therapists consider this book to be both cutting-edge and well-researched and think of it as a virtual guide in assisting their patients in making their sex lives better and maintaining or in some cases recapturing their desire. Perel employs both frank discussion and actual case studies to demonstrate that playful, exciting sex is possible in a long-term relationship.

She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
Author: Ian Kerner, PhD
Don’t be mislead by the title. This book is unisexual. Bettin confirms that both genders can learn quite a lot about doing the hot hokey pokey from this book.
It’s chock full of practical info regarding a woman’s body. For example, it reports that the clitoris actually has 18 parts and twice as many nerve endings as a penis does. The read also features step-by-step techniques on performing oral sex and how to bring it up in conversation.

The Heart of Desire: Keys to the Pleasures of Love
Author: Stella Resnick, PhD
Therapist Stella Resnick, Ph.D., reveals to readers just how to hold on to sexual desire in a long-term relationship. She shares how to remain both sexually and emotionally satisfied based on scientific research. She also delves in how one’s childhood impacts on one’s sex life. Bettin praises Resnick for demonstrating the connection to how someone was raised to show affection to their present day love life. She also enjoys how Resnick includes quizzes that can aid in better understanding a partner.

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